What do we mean by fairness? There isn’t really one standard. We usually tie it in as something we deserve. But it’s not so easy to accurately define what is fair. Our courts are crowded with law suits in which all sides are arguing that something is unfair.
While I believe in fighting for what is right, I also believe that many people are damaging their lives and relationships by focusing too much on what is fair. Brothers and sisters are estranged from each other (my parents always took my eldest brother’s side). Perhaps you’re wounded by some event in your past where you believe that you were wronged by some decision.
There is nothing at fault with feeling wounded by being wronged, unless it is now years from the event on you are still hurting from it or limited by it.
Christians believe in forgiveness. We come to Jesus first by admitting our wrong. Jesus then forgives us and promises that he heals—and forgets—our sins. From that time on. Forever.
We may never be able to settle certain wrongs we perceive from life’s hurts. But there’s no good or righteousness in holding on to hurt or anger. Give your hurts to Jesus and let Him fill you with hope instead of hurt.
He does not punish us for all our sins; he does not deal harshly with us, as we deserve. For his unfailing love toward those who fear him is as great as the height of the heavens above the earth.
He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west. Psalm103:10-12