Valentines Day has a long history in our culture. It is good to set aside a special time to celebrate our deepest love. I’ve been in love with my wife for more than fifty years. Instead of our love fading through the years, ours has continued to grow. Key to this is that expressing our love isn’t limited to Valentines Day (even though a lovely flower display will be one token delivered on that day).
True love takes constant nurture. First, it has to be evident 365 days a year. Second, it is nurtured by believable acts of love. If professed love comes from a self-serving spouse, it may be received with suspicion. It also takes a history of truthfulness. If your your wife (or girlfriend or boyfriend for those yet to be married) has experienced a history of insincerity, loving words may be cynically received. Third, true love sacrifices self regularly for the one you love. Putting your spouse sincerely above all others builds the truth and power of your professions of love.
Real love is willing to sacrifice self for the other. When both partners are willing and able to do this, love doesn’t just grow, it expands to generations who witness it. The greatest love of all, God’s love, is the founding example. When Jesus, God the Son, came to live with us He did so with the willingness to lose His life for our sake.
“So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.” John 13:33, 34