Healing the Hurt
by Rev. Tom Gray
Most of us have avoided someone because of a hurt they caused us. Often we nurse the hurts we’ve received and cannot move on. I’ve dealt with families separated by anger over a slight from years before. I don’t suggest that the hurts aren’t real, but I question the value of hanging on to the hurt.
If you find yourself in this position,
• Go to the person and explain how you’ve been hurt by them. If they respond rightly, a healing will take place.
• If the person refuses to admit to hurting you, move on as graciously as you can. You’ve done what God would want, and I believe that His healing will come to your soul.
Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be
condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Luke 6:37
Know that it will take some time in either case for healing to settle in your soul, but know that it will. We can’t recover from a hurt until we learn to forgive. This is why Scripture describes this as a process, even using the word “bear.”
Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13
Repairing a relationship is worth the risk of taking the first step. It’s particularly good to remember that all forgiveness comes through Jesus Christ who, even though unfairly crucified, said,
“Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” Luke 23:34