by Rev. Tom Gray
Anger is rarely a positive emotion. It is possible to have righteous anger, but I feel that most of my anger comes out of selfish responses. Anger is usually a quick response, unthought, to what annoys us. The Bible gives serious warning about it.
“But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.” Colossians 3:8
The reason we should avoid anger is the damage it causes. If we feel we’ve been wronged, anger almost creates a good feeling. But what would that feeling produce if we should act on it? Division. Separation. Hurt. Embarrassment. I could write more, but you get the drift.
Scripture gives a good admonition to memorize for when we get angry.
“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.” James 1:20
The Bible rightly points out that anger can quickly lead us to sin. Whatever “pleasure” we get from venting our anger isn’t worth the collateral damage.
So, what do we do when anger arises? Stop, think, and pray. If you really need to confront the person who angered you, wait a day or two to calm down. If you still need to, then meet with that person. It can be a good thing to include a mutual, trustworthy friend in the meeting.
And be thankful for the following:
“‘The Lord is slow to anger, abounding in love and forgiving sin and rebellion….” Numbers 14:18