Dealing with “I Can’t”
by Rev. Tom Gray
Throughout my ministry I was active in counseling families following a suicide. I had experience with this in my own extended family with specific training to help others. I worked with local police, to be sure that I could be ready as soon as possible to counsel survivors. But every time I got a call to an active scene, I’d temporarily freeze, saying to myself, “I can’t do this.”
Truth was, I really meant “I won’t.”
Why, if I had experience, education, and a calling for this ministry, would I balk at actually doing it? The truth was simple: it was hard. I met with people at the lowest point in their lives. I didn’t just witness grief, I experienced it all over for myself. It was the toughest point of my ministry yet, in many ways, the best. If I heeded my initial reaction and asked someone else to go, I’d never have found the significance and inner healing that I received from this ministry.
I am sure that there are some important things that you balk at. When your inner voice says “I can’t,” realize that you may just be reacting for the moment. In the Lord, we can always say “we can.” The result of faithfulness is a strengthening of our inner sense of well-being, especially if we are helping other. We are created, in part, to serve others with the gifts and experiences we’ve had. If God has called you to do something difficult, He will provide all your needs, and be with you, as well.
I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being,