Looking at the Roots of Our Problem
Written by: Lydia D’Ross, Renewal Program Outreach Chaplain and ordained minister
For the next several weeks, we will be looking at the cycle of domestic violence. If left untreated, the roots of the problem will continue on for generations. We will discuss the myth of that the Bible condones domestic violence. We will also explore why Christian spouses might stay in a violent marriage rather than seek professional help.
“From 1998 to 2011, the Oklahoma Domestic Violence Fatality Review Board identified 1,059 homicides (an average of 81 deaths per year) resulting from domestic violence that occurred in Oklahoma. There were 219 deaths (20.6% of the state total) reported for Tulsa County in that time frame. Oklahoma is currently ranked 11th in women murdered by men according to the Violence Policy Center (Washington DC) report issued in September, 2011. There were more than 21,000 domestic violence calls to the Tulsa County 911 system in 2011. Oklahoma ranked 3rd in the United States for females murdered by males.”–Statistics according to The Family Safety Center.
These statistics are beyond disturbing. The Tulsa Family Safety Center’s mission is to help educate the public about the severity of this problem as well as to help those affected by domestic violence. It has a unique spiritual care component. The Family Safety Center Chaplains tell me that the victims have a sense of relief when they are told that they have done nothing wrong.
As chaplains, we must recognize signs and symptoms of the cycle of domestic violence. Keep in mind that the victim might not have visible marks on their bodies as one powerful aspect of domestic violence is emotional and verbal abuse.
As chaplains, if you suspect possible domestic violence, The Family Safety Center chaplains can assist you in your referral process.
We invite pastors to attend our Pastoral Seminar on April 9th, 2015, 11:45 am-1:00 pm, when Rev. Melissa Slagle will discuss pastoral counseling in times of crisis. To reserve your spot, call 918-438-4257.