Don’t be Enslaved by your Baggage
Did you marry your baggage or your spouse? When two people get married, they also marry each other’s baggage, till death do us part. In most cases, it is not the baggage in the marriage that kills it, but the lack of communication. Sometimes the movie industry gives us this fantasy about how a perfect marriage should look. That is a misconception. Our baggage is full of holes and sometimes causes us to be unable to break from habits that can be harmful to a successful marriage. When you marry someone, you take them for better or for worse. We all look forward to the good days, but things get tough when the bad days come along.
Scripture says, “For whatever overcomes a person, to that he is enslaved.” (2 Peter 2:19) We must be willing to open our emotional baggage, and take responsibility for the problems we are contributing to the marriage. We sometimes think that if we pray hard enough to God he will change our spouse. Sometimes we need to examine ourselves and look at what is within our control to change.
King David prayed “Keep me from deceitful ways.. I have chosen the way of truth.” (Psalm 119: 29-30) You can’t live in freedom from deception if you believe your own lies. Identifying what lies you have mistakenly believed about yourself can help you unpack your emotional baggage. Some children are told “you will never amount to anything,” and live out those lies when they become adults, because it was never challenged. By challenging the lies and discovering the truth, you will be something great. You can become your best cheerleader. King David was greatly distressed because of those who were bitter and blamed him for the loss of their sons and daughters. However, King David rejected those lies and encouraged himself even more in the Lord. Let’s take ownership of our own baggage and not try to change our spouses simply because we think they are the one with the problem.