Emotional intimacy, not for everyone
Many psychotherapists believe that an intimate human relationship is good for you, but are some people better off alone? We might all know someone with intimacy issues, but could you ever imagine that love could be not only undesirable, but toxic? Dr. Richard A. Friedman, M.D. does. In an article published in The New York Times, Dr. Friedman had a patient that when pressured to marry his girlfriend, made an attempt to end his life. After a brief hospitalization, where the patient was treated for depression with medication, he relocated to Europe. His family says that after a visit with him, he seemed to lack feeling.
Typical of schizoid patients, this man had a lifelong pattern of detachment from people, few friends and limited emotional expressiveness. His well-meaning parents always encouraged him to make friends and, later on, to date, even though he was basically uninterested in social activities.
Some verses from the Bible that I think could be encouraging for someone struggling with emotional expressiveness:
1 Corinthians 7:32-35 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs and how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world and how he can please his wife and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world and how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.